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What Is Empathy and Why Is It Important?<\/h2>\n
Have you ever had one of those days when you just needed someone to talk to, someone to really get how you were feeling? Have you ever felt totally misunderstood by your spouse or a friend? Well, if you have, you were more than likely needing a dose of empathy.<\/p>\n
Feeling heard and understood is a human need. Everyone needs to feel understood. Empathy helps us get in touch with our feelings and gives us an emotional understanding of ourselves and others.<\/p>\n
Can Empathy Be Learned?<\/h2>\n
Feeling understood is not only a basic human need but it is also how we connect, help, and support one another. If we can\u2019t recognize someone in pain, how can we support them? If we are unable to accept and empathize with our own emotions, it is difficult to be present to people around us. And for this reason, empathy is crucial for our interconnectivity.<\/p>\n
The good news is that like other emotional intelligence (or EQ) skills, empathy can be learned and practiced. Unlike IQ or the genes, you inherited from your parents, we can apply ourselves and develop a greater understanding and know-how in relating to our own and others\u2019 feelings. And we can even extend this type of compassionate empathy virtually, which helps bridge the distance or separation we may feel.<\/p>\n<\/figure>\n
What Does Empathy Mean? 4 Qualities that Describe Empathy<\/h3>\n
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\u201cLearning to stand in somebody else\u2019s shoes, to see through their eyes, that\u2019s how peace begins. It\u2019s up to you to make that happen. Empathy is a quality of character that can change world.\u201d – Barack Obama<\/h3>\n<\/div>\n
This quote is very key. If we are filled with our own reactions or pain, it is nearly impossible to see or feel what it\u2019s like from another\u2019s experience because their emotions will set off a chain reaction of our own unresolved emotions. So, one of the first keys of empathy is to be aware of our own emotions. It is only with this awareness that we can be present to another.nn In the article, \u201cBren\u00e9 Brown on Empathy vs Sympathy,\u201d<\/u> by Psychology Today, the four qualities of empathy are outlined as:<\/p>\n
1) to be able to see the world as others see it<\/strong><\/p>\n
2) to be non-judgmental<\/strong><\/p>\n
3) to understand another\u2019s feelings<\/p>\n
4) to communicate your understanding of that person\u2019s feelings<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/figure>\n
The Difference between Empathy vs Sympathy<\/h2>\n
Many people think they\u2019re being empathetic when they\u2019re being sympathetic (because they feel sorry for the person) or asserting a feeling stopper (because they don\u2019t know how to respond or relate to the feelings of the other person). Or sometimes the experience trips emotional triggers and unresolved issues in their own lives so they quickly minimize the person\u2019s experience.<\/p>\n
These critical components are not as easy as they would seem. Our own past experiences can interfere with connecting to another person. Once an emotion is triggered, it can be difficult to show empathy or be present in a genuine way.<\/p>\n
Roman Krzanic, A popular speaker and co-founder of The School of Life argue,\u201d Empathy, not apathy or sympathy, is at the heart of who we are. By looking outward and attempting to identify with the experiences of others, Krzanic argues, we can become not only a more equal society but also a happier and more creative one.<\/p>\n<\/figure>\n
An important goal in our relationships is to connect. Empathy creates connection while sympathy creates separation and disconnection. With empathy, there is a resonance between people, a bridge of understanding is built between them that strengthens trust and connection. However, with sympathy, there is a fixation on one person\u2019s experience rather than understanding and connection.<\/p>\n
Don\u2019t Take Responsibility for Other\u2019s Emotions<\/h2>\n
Another obstacle to expressing authentic empathy is the tendency to believe that we\u2019re responsible for making other people feel better, especially those we love. You can be present to someone having a difficult time, yet not take on their energy or allow their emotions to weigh you down. Caring is connecting and supporting, not taking responsibility for their emotions. Imagine if everyone else\u2019s emotions were our responsibility\u2014yikes, we\u2019d be so overwhelmed! No wonder our first knee-jerk reaction sometimes is to try to make others feel better.<\/p>\n
Empathy doesn\u2019t ask us to take responsibility for someone else\u2019s feelings.<\/p>\n
Empathy is the ability to truly be present. It\u2019s the ability to hold a safe space for others to feel their own emotions completely and to be able to understand their experience.<\/p>\n<\/figure>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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